A deep connection you once had with a special one can change overnight and can become total strangers in a split second. Sickness, deceit, lies, heartbreak and death could change your life forever.

Matrimonial separation is hard, every divorce story is different and heartrending but it doesn’t mean that we stop talking to people, lock our emotions and ourselves in a room. I was stuck in a feeling equivalent to a drinker’s remorse. The depression and the sadness one feel the very next morning hungover after a party, I felt in a similar manner a few months after my separation.

Has this happened with you? Have you ever felt this sad and empty that you just don’t want to move?

I tried to look at the other side of it, the brighter side. Although I took time to see the good behind this painful journey but I did.

Life gave me a second chance.

The lyrics of a song sung by our very famous Mr Kishore Kumar resonated with the situation when my wounds were fresh “Rehne do chordo, bhi jaane do yaar, hum na karenge pyar”. I locked my emotions and myself, refused to go out, and even meet my friends in the beginning. Being the victim of emotionally shut down to by her partner, I was doing the same thing with myself. This realisation triggered some wire inside of me.

Suddenly, I wanted to go out, have coffee and conversations with my friends, friends of friends. Talk to people while travelling. I wanted to get out of comfort zone and meet new people.

Making new connections is part of the healing process.

My newfound sobriety was much more than meeting new people. It was an unbreakable promise to my inner self to not feel disappointed and to rebuild the trust within myself. With the decision of allowing new people in my life, I needed to work on myself too. I cannot meet new people and be the same human being as before. I shared my life experiences with a few but with a new approach – “I don’t need these new connections in my life, I want them.”

 “We’re living in miraculous times where connections are made at the blink of an eye, the tap of a thumb, and the click of a mouse. We can never replace human interaction, but these simple actions can be powerful and meaningful to those we connect with.”

–         Christy Turlington

In the era of online dating, where one could decide whom to meet only by a single tap on a smartphone screen, I wanted to go old school. Talk to new people, know their stories, and build a further connection. Indulgence in meaningful deep conversations is my idea of self-actualisation and self-realisation therapy.

I didn’t want to jump into a search mission for the next prospective partner. I am free from the obsession of finding love because I’m not afraid of being alone. But; here comes the big, controversial BUT.. Making new connections means new people, new experiences, new chapters in life, and ultimately your new improved inner self.

Do you agree with me?

I would love to hear your stories. Please share your thoughts and feelings in the comment section below.

Thank you so much for your presence here.

A lot more thoughts and words are on their way and you shall read them soon.

13 thoughts on “NEW CONNECTIONS!

  1. I second this post. Completely agree. We are certainly and effectively responsible for our happiness and before going into the modern stuffs be it online dating or so, we should meet in person and discuss and should be all ears for his or her story. This would not only make us more comfortable but would also build a great bond of trust and word satisfaction between both. 🙂

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  2. Today morning only I was thinking “Kanika did not ppst anything recently” and tadda here it is 🙂
    Your writing has a way of striking chords. Most of us have stories, some keep it to themselves, some pour it out, Yes I too walked that path and look at it as lesson learned. And I think this is one of the best things that ever happened to me 🙂 There is more, but then this is not where I wish to divulge the details 🙂
    My only suggestion, give yourself enough time.

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    1. This is greatly appreciated Nilesh!
      I’m so overwhelmed to see that a small effort as this, writing a blog, can affect people. I would love to see my Thoughts & Words reaching out to more and more people out there.
      And as what you said, I’m giving myself all the time in the world.
      Thank you for the feedback! 🙂
      A lot more to come..

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  4. Having read this I thought it was really enlightening. I appreciate you taking the time and effort to put this information together. I once again find myself spending way too much time both reading and leaving comments. But so what, it was still worth it!

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