Wedding = Happiness but Divorce = Sadness

Why do we have this preconceived notion about these two words in our minds? Why do people have sympathy in their eyes when they look at a divorcee? Why does everyone think that it’s the end of the world?

I don’t want your pity, I don’t want your sympathy. I want a caring heart, an understanding mind, and an ear to natter to.

Divorce was and is the best thing that has happened to me/with me. I never could have realised what I am or what I want from my life, had I been stuck in that marriage. I have been in the healing process ever since. The best self-development therapy that I could have ever asked for.

This made me realise certain things.

As I have mentioned in my earlier post making new connections is part of the healing process so is the decision to let go. Life is like a train journey, you get to meet a lot of different and unique souls. You can’t hold onto them forever. When their destination arrives they will leave. The only positive approach is to tell them how lucky you are to have met them and kiss them goodbye. Cherish the time spent and move on with your journey ahead. There are over 7 billion people in the world, do you seriously think you will only have a handful in your life?

Let go of the people who don’t want to stay in your life with a smile and welcome new ones with open arms.

I realised another thing. This is the longest that I have remained single.

I always had a man in my life. Always had a hand to hold onto, always had someone to tell me what and how to do things. Someone was always there to tell me what qualities I possess and to point out my flaws. I didn’t know what I was, back then (but not anymore).

I lost a lot over these past 10/12 years. I lost those two doves (my first ever and the one I married) whom I completely adored at a certain point in my life, lost many connections with people, lost two pregnancies, pushed a dead baby out of me, a broken marriage, deteriorated health, devastated body, a confused mind and a wounded heart for life but my soul was intact. I fought to gain myself back and I was victorious.

I finally have me. I can very proudly say that I am happily divorced, ecstatically single, and loving every bit of it.

I would love to hear your stories. Please share your thoughts and feelings in the comment section below (Also, if you would like to connect with me, details are mentioned in the sidebar section on my site).  

Thank you very much for your presence here 🙂

A lot more thoughts and words are on their way and you shall read them soon.


  1. srijan

    You’re a really impressive lady. And it is quite inspiring. I can’t imagine the pain you had to bear because of all that has happened. I really liked your honesty and the wisdom that you’re sharing. You’ve come a long way, but I guess there’s still a lot of pain within you. I hope you do meet someone, who is warm and sweet, so as to calm the storms residing in you.
    And I personally don’t think, it should matter if you’re a divorcee or not. One still deserves the purest form of love and care. And you do too. And I’m sure, you will.
    Anyway, you’re a beautiful lady. And I really liked reading you. I wish you all the best.

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    1. Thank you very much for all these kind words Srijan 🙂 I’m glad you liked my posts.
      And i don’t have a lot of pain inside of me now as i had a year ago but i do have a lot of thoughts, hence the name Thoughts & Words. 🙂
      I’m quite speechless at the moment as to what should i write back anyway thanks again for the honest words!
      Stay connected!


      1. srijan

        Your pain has given birth to lessons and realizations which i now like the rest, read you write. But that doesn’t mean, that it is any less. It isn’t that easy, for like rumi said “Loving so short, forgetting so long”.
        You’ll soon meet someone worthy with whom you could share all that lies within you. For in the end, that’s all we need, to heal. To be loved. To be heard. To be cared. That’s all, there is to.
        You don’t have to say anything. It is fine. Just look after yourself. And do what you love. 🙂

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