I have witnessed quite many times some people in a relationship are like an Eagle who hold their prey (their partner) so tight and doesn’t want to let go. The control is so powerful and strong that the opposite person is unable to function. They tend to lose their intellect, mind and surrender themselves entirely to the metaphorical eagle here. They want to control the other person in the relationship (be it any, love, friendship, superiority or parental) so much so that he/she should even take prior permission to breathe.
The pain inflicted with those inseparable claws of someone deeply rooted in your skin is unexplainable. Have you ever felt this sort of excruciating pain? Do you have an urge to free yourself from their hold even when you know the outcome would be painful?
This might agitate you for a while and you might want to shout at them angrily, however understanding that they too have pain in their heart will change the situation entirely.
What we all fail to understand is that nothing is constant in life, it is meant to change after some point. Many things that happen in life are beyond our control.
When we were born, life didn’t come to us and promised to keep us safe.
Then why do some people build a safety net around themselves? Why are they scared to function outside of it? There’s comfortability in bad behaviour (not stating here that it should be followed) because it takes courage and confidence to accept change and adapt to it. The effort and need to adapt to a new thought process and way of living might be tedious and worrisome for some.
Although it doesn’t mean that you should wait all your life for that person to show changes. If you think that nothing is working out, you need to take control of your life. If ever you get a chance to escape their hold, don’t second guess yourself. You will surely get those deep hurtful talon wounds but there are no wounds in this world those are incurable.
If you have come out of that situation triumphantly, then pat yourself on the back and forgive them. As it is rightly quoted by Gerald Jampolsky – “Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions.”
Forgiveness and acceptance are the keys to unlock the door towards the path of contentment and happiness.
PS: I wrote this post inspired by one of my friend who is going through a matrimonial separation currently. The will power and courage is commendable.
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